Happy mind, happy life
Some people are naturally pessimistic and some optimistic yet I’m a firm believer that even the most negative people can make small changes to their behaviour that will help them become a more positive person and start to see things in a better light.
Having positive energy is so powerful; not only are you helping yourself but your positivity indirectly affects those around you. There are also hundreds of studies that show how positivity leads to success- especially within business.
Naturally I’m quite a positive person but I do have a wobble from time to time- doesn’t everyone? I don’t believe that life should be about all the doom and gloom, we should always celebrate all the wonderful things that happen.
These are a few of my top tips for keeping a positive and healthy mind:
- Finding a positive within the negative
It’s very easy to experience a situation and look at the bleak side- this is just naturally what the human brain does to protect itself. But it is unhealthy for your mind and wellbeing if you can’t see the positive in any situation. There is ALWAYS a positive to a negative.
Shit happens but whether the situation is big or small, I always try to see the positive even when it’s hard. Back in November 2016 my mum suffered a heart attack and it would have been easy for me to get upset about it, but in that time being positive gave the strength that my family needed. She’s alive and she’s doing great health wise. There’s no point in me sitting there every day worrying whether she’ll have another one otherwise I wouldn’t be able to get on with my life.
- Find solutions, not problems
This is definitely something that will help your work life, and your colleagues and boss will love you for it. Try to be proactive and helpful, don’t be that guy who is constantly moaning about problems- it grinds on others and it isn’t productive. If there is a problem, find a solution. If you are that guy that moans, stop moaning- you’ll probably feel a huge sense of achievement by fixing a problem instead.
- Be self critical but constructive
Striving to improve and become a better person is brilliant as long as you are constructive, not destructive. Don’t compare yourself to others.
- Keep your living space tidy
Throw things out, keep it tidy, it is so therapeutic- your mind will feel a lot clearer. I get a little anxious when my room is cluttered, so a big tidy up makes me feel more relaxed and I’m ready to get on with my daily tasks.
- Clear out your social media
It is okay to unfollow and unfriend people – I do it often. If someone’s social media posts are winding you up or annoying you, simply unfriend/unfollow them, it usually takes two clicks.
- Remove negative people from your life
Surround yourself with positive people. Avoid those who try to bring you down and stay close with those who want you to succeed, support you and celebrate your achievements. Why would you choose to be friends with people who don’t support you and want to see you fail? Being surrounded by negative people will soon turn you into a negative person too.
Exercise is a magical thing and it works wonders for a positive mental attitude. It gives you something to focus on, work towards and gives your mind a well needed rest. I understand it is hard to juggle work, a social life, R+R and exercise but if you can find a few nights a week to exercise, you will start feeling less stressed or worried. The hardest part is starting, but then you’ll get into a happy routine and you will look forward to your next work out or gym session.
- Be kind to others
What goes around, comes around
Karma is beautiful. If you’re a total bitch to everyone then people probably won’t be very nice back. If you’re nice to everyone then you’ll probably see people’s attitudes towards you change too. Be nice to others, look out for them and let them know you’re there. It’s the little gestures you make to people that mean the most to them.
- Take a break from social media
Facebook, Instagram and Twitter are great but can have devastating effects on your positive mental health. Put your phone away for an hour or so, watch TV, read a book or do some yoga. I know how tough it is, especially for girls as you’re constantly bombarded by fitspo accounts, pictures of friends looking glam on nights out, Instagram models and more… Sometimes it becomes too much and you sit there scrolling through your feed feeling like a bag of shit. Don’t compare yourself to others on social media and get off it for an hour or two on those days you feel low. You won’t miss out on anything and it’ll still be there after.
Do things! Don’t just sit at home all the time; paint, draw, sing, act, dance, cook, compose, play, create!
- Focus your time- plan and set targets..
The times I have felt the lowest is when I’ve had nothing to do or look forward to. Living day to day can have a negative effect on your mood. Having things to look forward to, things to work on and targets are so, so crucial to maintaining a positive mind. If you’re anything like I am, you’re at your happiest when you’re busy and have things to do or look forward to.
- Turn ‘I can’t’ into ‘I can do my best’
If you go into an exam thinking “I can’t do this” then you probably won’t do very well, likewise for if you walk into a job interview thinking “I can’t do this, they’ll never employ me”. Thinking you can’t do something will only negatively impact you as negative thoughts show in your body language, your voice and will affect your decision making. You are in charge of your own thoughts so going into something with a positive attitude will help you so much. Yes you might get knocked back, or you might not do as well as your friend, or you might fail to reach your parents’ standards, but going in with a positive attitude will mean at least you were in the best possible mental position to do your best. Doing your best is all you can do, so turn “I can’t” into “I can do my best”.
It’s okay to have ‘one of those days’, it’s okay not to be okay and it’s okay to talk about your mental health. My top tips aren’t solutions and might not fix any mental health problems that you may be suffering but I hope that if you are feeling down you can use some of these tips to help you see the world from a more positive perspective.
Little changes can make a huge impact.